Speaking is an art of expressing oneself. It goes a long way as knowing the right time to speak up is essential. There are few times in one’s life, when one has to speak up. I’m not to speak because I’m a bit reserved. So many times I wish I could speak up when I actually had a chance. However, there are times to keep shut and watch things pass by. It is though necessary to have your words heard if it is evident to make things right so you won’t regret your inactions in the future. Create positive change by making your voice heard.


  • When you know you are right
When you have an opinion, be confident enough to share. You might not need to stress it too much but when you can prevent something bad from occurring, don’t just sit back and keep quiet. Although your opinion might not change someone’s decision, but be sure to make your opinion known.
  • When you want to apologise
Saying ‘sorry’ could be hard. To some it makes them feel inferior or weak. In the real sense of it, apologising helps to save further destruction or mishaps. The one who apologise is strong and commands respect. No one likes to eat crow, yet all of us have to at some point. Apologising makes you a better person. Most times withholding the word could destroy a long-time relationship. Due to some differences we have as individuals, misunderstandings are bound to happen. It is important to make things right whenever it is necessary. Make an effort to make an apology when you need to.


  • When you are watching someone you love walk away
    Making amends to save the relationship is crucial. Many breakups in business and personal relationships or divorces might have been saved might have been saved if someone have spoken up. For the sake of pride, many have resolved to live in hurt for allowing someone to walk out of their life. It is easier to refuse to look back and get hurt for the sake of pride. But if the person means a lot to you, don’t allow them to walk away.


  • When you are under pressure
    Whatever you are not capable to do or cannot afford, should be refused. Never displease yourself to please someone else. If it is going to take you off the limit, speak up. Don’t pretend to be cool with situations that are eating you up on the inside. Submitting to such situations put you under pressure and makes you subjected to slavery. Remember you have a choice and whatever you decide to do should be as a result of inner conviction not because you are being pushed.


  • When someone is taking advantage of you
    Most people recognise your offer for help and tend to abuse it. It is important for you to know when your help is really appreciated and not being taken for granted. Moreover, let not your weakness be obvious to such people because it will be used against you. People can use you when you are happy for instance to demand what you would not give out on a normal day. Be sensitive enough not to keep quiet for everything you are worth.


If you had moments when you wished you had spoken up, make sure when such re-occur, speak up so you won’t have to stay alive to regret it for the rest of your life. Moreover, if there are situations you can still amend, call attention of the parties involve for the peace to be restored.

OlaitanTaiwo is a graduate of Economics from the University of Ibadan. She is a Make-up Artist who loves  writing and currently an Editor for The Unity Magazine. She is an individual who believes in independence and advocates for girl child education. She is a creative lady who sees possibilities in difficulties. She is a listener focused on sharing her experiences to help young girls who are faced with life challenges. She is the brain behind the girlfriend’s club, a platform towards the outstanding performance of the girl child. She is also into the HIV/AIDS awareness and education.



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